What usually happens right after you shout, snap, or shut down with your child? *

I replay the moment in my mind and feel terrible.

I move on quickly, but the tension sits in my body.

I apologise a lot and try to “make it up to them.”

I feel like I’ve ruined everything and question if I’m a good mum.

I stay worked up my body feels wired and I can't settle.

What does your inner voice say in those moments? *

“Why did I do that again? I’m such a mess.”

“It’s fine. Just keep going.”

“I need to fix this, now.”

“I shouldn’t be like this. What’s wrong with me?”

“I’m still angry. Everything feels too much.”

How do you usually try to recover after an outburst? *

I overthink it and feel worse the more I reflect.

I suppress the feelings and distract myself.

I become extra kind or overly soft to make up for it.

I shut down and feel like a failure.

I clean, pace, or keep busy...I need to move.

What’s the hardest part for you in these moments? *

Letting go of the guilt

Letting myself feel the emotion

Trusting I haven’t messed up the relationship

Believing I’m not damaging my kids

Calming my body once it’s activated

What do you wish you had in that moment? *

A voice telling me I’m still a good mum

Space to release and feel

A simple script to reconnect with my child

Permission to not be perfect

A tool to calm my body now